Honor.The.Gift Podcast

EMOTIONAL ENTITLEMENT

When emotion moves from an internal feeling to an external mode of manipulation or justification, paired with a rant, therein lies the obstacle. Emotion is either rich with connection, or ripe with expulsion. As it goes, let me draw attention to three terms and/or concepts that show up for us as complex organisms thriving and jiving in imperfection: 

1. Counterfeit Emotional Language
2. Rational-Emotive Approach
3. Emotional Intelligence

IN THIS WEEK’S EPISODE, I talk about EMOTIONAL ENTITLEMENT. When it comes to our emotional state, our physiology, perceptions, and social experiences all come into play. In a self serving state, we become less effective when we express our emotions in generalities, without ownership and from a state of counterfeit. 

In this new paradigm, might we challenge ourselves to consider that while we are fully entitled to our own emotions, we are never entitled to the emotions associated with dismissive behavior and criticisms of another, particularly when the behavior is one we’ve too been guilty of in our own times of imperfection.

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Ryan Harris on IMPACT & INFLUENCE

When asked if he could only choose one pen to write his legacy, he chose gratitude as his go to instrument. When given a few more choices he coupled it with self-confidence, and grit, as staples in his tool belt, to create the biggest IMPACT and INFLUENCE in life.  

IN THIS WEEK’S EPISODE you’ll meet Ryan Harris, a dear friend, and someone who’s impacted my life for the better. The topic is IMPACT & INFLUENCE. This conversation is off the cuff and one you won’t want to miss.  

Ryan is the Founder and Visionary of RizeX, an organization of regional entrepreneurs and business owners focussed on redefining market contribution. He’s also the Chief Innovation Officer and Co-Founder at Arcane Marketing, a full service agency. Ryan lives by the philosophy Zig Ziglar taught:  “You can have EVERYTHING you want in this life by helping enough other people get what they want.”   

When your soul's work is to create a lasting legacy, everything just seems to line up for what must be done. 

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GUIDEPOSTS

Without getting too long winded, and deep into my thoughts on each of these three fundamental rules. When life is in session, we can each continue to find opportunity, and more openly growth, from these guideposts:

 

1. Be a contributor. 

2. Live the change you believe is possible. 

3. Be a light to those who are looking.  

 

IN THIS WEEK’S EPISODE, it’s a speed round on CHANGE and CONTRIBUTION, and the notion that in order to change the world, we must first believe in the world, and then work to be the change we want to see in the world by living our beliefs. 

At the end of the day, the very heartbeat of influence and contribution beats ONLY when you recognize the responsibility your own growth has on it, and act accordingly.  

Dig deeper. Be courageous. Stop rehashing the old story and start writing a new script. 

Let's do this!

 

MINDSET

Is it time to take inventory and realign? Can you still see your north star? Is your mind strong enough to weather the insecurities and inadequacies found in comparison? Is it strong enough to manage pain and anger? Is it built to withstand unqualified criticism? 

Life is a mind game you are playing against yourself. With that knowledge should also come an understanding of the need for constant programming. It is my promise to you, and reminder to myself more than anyone, that personal MINDSET will make or break us. Period. 

IN THIS WEEK’S EPISODE, it’s a speed round on MINDSET, a refresher if you will, on the one thing that dictates our very existence. 

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ON FATHERHOOD w/JUSTIN BATT

If you were asked to write your eulogy, what would it say, and more importantly what would your legacy be? Would you be proud of your impact on the world? 

IN THIS WEEK’S EPISODE you’ll meet Justin Batt, a dear friend, and someone who’s impacted my life for the better. It’s rare that you’ll find someone so connected with their calling in life. He’s intentional about his role as a husband, father, and leader in his community. When it comes to living true, Justin walks the talk.

Justin is the Founder of Daddy Saturday, and one of Nashville’s newest. As a successful writer, speaker, and entrepreneur, you’ll find him engaged in his greatest work along side his family, building a faith forward legacy.

His calling: Eradicate Fatherlessness.  

If you feel like you’ve been on the sidelines too long and are being called to get in the game, Justin invites you to go deep with him on the topics of Fatherhood, Driveway Devotionals, Keystone Habits, Living True, and the remarkable lessons he’s learned along the way.

Join us for a truly remarkable episode!

MATURITY

I’ve heard it said before, “When you disrespect yourself, you go looking for disrespect in others.”

What does a mature approach to growth look and feel like?

IN THIS WEEK’S EPISODE we’re talking MATURITY “in the journey.” 

On this journey to become our best self, let us find grace. BECOMING is a constant effort to BE the humans we are divinely appointed to BECOME. While on this path you’re certain to come across tremendous obstacles and tempting paths, away from the best version of you. Be patient, yet persistent with the things that seem hard, but will ultimately lead to a stronger you. BE a light for others who are no doubt on this journey as well. You see, the cool thing about this is that progress is a natural desire and one divinely placed in us to brighten the world of those we serve, including our own special project of BECOMING our best self. 

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SAVE A SEAT

If you were to ask your future or highest/best self to advise you in this season of your life, what would they tell you to do?

IN THIS WEEK’S EPISODE, we talk about the empty seat at your personal advisory table, and a qualified candidate to fill that seat on the regular. 

When it comes to high performance, there exists two fundamental characters, called upon often, to help solve for key decisions and next steps during turbulent times. These two characters are one, your highest/best self, and two, your future self.

When one or both of these characters are called in to help make decisions that count, they show up brilliantly, and without fail seem to always have the exact answer and insight into greater results and higher level performance. 

That empty seat at the table. Tap into it. It’s here that you’ll start to see more clearly the future that can be and when acted upon will be. 

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CREATION AND DESTRUCTION AS A PARADIGM

As with seasons of change, so too comes the realization that all cannot remain the same. New growth comes only after a marked move from what once was. As a natural course of progression, one must learn to let go of the past and lean into the future. It’s that letting go that at times can feel so destructive and unsafe.

I believe that the universe only holds reserved space for us in one of two areas: decision or indecision, however it only rewards one with new providence. If a new paradigm exists as a choice, then how might adopting a paradigm that new growth will require the destruction of a misaligned past serve your future self?   

IN THIS WEEK’S EPISODE, we explore the paradigm of creation and destruction as a necessary continuum.

In order to make room for certainty, you must be willing to let go of uncertainty. If we want the bright horizon of tomorrow to be different than the familiar and dim glow of today, we must be willing to loosen the grip we have on our fixation of the past. We must be willing to lay down our old, comfortable self, in order to re-define and move towards our future best self.

If you’re itching for a change but having trouble letting go of the habits creating your present existence, let’s dive into the reality of change as a chosen paradigm. 

Together, let’s do the work of being better.

10 LESSONS LEARNED IN 2020

Hello friends and welcome to another weekly episode. In this week’s episode I’m saying THANK YOU to 2020 and I’ll share 10 THINGS I LEARNED throughout the year. 

Here’s the list:

1. Change Is Guaranteed
2. Grace Defined
3. The Greatest Opportunity for Leadership is in the Home 
4. Excuses Remain the Same
5. Intentionality as a Choice
6. The Go-Forward Option
7. The Necessity of Inner Work
8. Act on Inspiration
9. Routines are a Tool to Protect Your Time
10. What’s OURS to Solve For

Let's do the work of being better. 

Remember that GROWTH is always a choice.

Until next week my friends, make it a great one, and remember to always…HONOR.THE.GIFT.

 

THE MYTH OF CONTROL

It’s no wonder that the words to the serenity prayer offer so much insight, eloquence, and wisdom to one suffering from the most tumultuous of internal demons found in self service and preservation. It’s an epistle, if you will, to help shape a fleeting effort to CONTROL life in a manner inconsistent with an opposite reality. 

When we seek to CONTROL, we give our power to a predictable habit of futility. We seek for gain. We seek to eliminate the pain of the present by casting it on another. We seek to manipulate the flow of progress to accommodate the lack thereof.  

IN THIS WEEK’S EPISODE, we’re talking CONTROL as a contra-concept to OUT OF CONTROL. I say contra-concept, because sometimes what one would normally consider the cure, in reality might actually become the curse.  

The only things in our CONTROL are the choices we make. That’s it. And thus the dichotomy of being OUT OF CONTROL, is the reality that we are in complete CONTROL based on the gift of choice.

From Jay Shetty’s book Think Like a Monk: “You can only keep up the myth of your own importance for so long. If you don’t break your ego, life will break it for you.” 

Are you willing to break the glass ceiling you’ve created for yourself? Hide and seek is a game not intended for self sabotage.

Remember that growth is always a choice. Let us find joy in the work of becoming better tomorrow than we were today.